Hey everyone. I’m about to tell you all a really personal story, and then, I could use your help.
The blonde in the pictures above is my little sister, Rachel. She’s 14, a freshman in high school. She’s one of the smartest kids you’ll ever meet, to be honest. Smarter than me. She’s got an amazing sense of humor and the most gorgeous smile, the sort of person who just lights up a room with laughter after being in it for five minutes. Even though I’m 19 and I should be the tough one, she’s held me when I cried, and she cooks me dinner when I’m too lazy to do it, and she gives me confidence when I don’t believe in myself. We cosplay together, we fangirl together, and we talk Tumblr-speak at the dinner table. It’s not an exaggeration when I tell you this girl is my entire world. I’d do anything for her, and I love her more than words could fully describe.
On Friday, she was admitted to a psychiatric hospital after a year of battling severe depression and anxiety.
She thinks she’s ugly. She thinks her future doesn’t matter. She often hates herself, and can’t see all the amazing things everyone else knows is obvious just from their first glance at her.
The red tie on my wrist you see in the third picture was from her. Behavioral hospitals don’t allow anything with strings on them, so after she pulled out the tie for her sweatshirt, she wrapped it around my wrist for me to wear until she gets back. It might only be for a weekend, or it might be for longer. I don’t know yet.
Here’s where I’m asking for your help. At the earliest, Rachel is coming home on Sunday, but it’ll probably be longer. Still, that means I might only have two days to get the message out. I want to show her when she comes home that there are people out there who believe in her. Who think she’s beautiful and worth fighting for, worth recovery.
So please, reblog this and prove to her that she has more support than she ever realized. I’m hoping it’ll give her some confidence than she can get better.Dear followers, please spread the love! The girl who posted this is incredibly sweet and super cool. Please help her and her sister out
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I spend a lot of time talking to people who don’t believe they are beautiful, or did not believe it. Most of the people who are finally seeing their individual beauty are out of school, or have spent time on this site being encouraged by others. Those that are out of high school, that are out of that very focused pressure, are able to see that life does change out of high school— there will still be certain people that try to break them down, because there will always be human beings that aren’t comfortable with themselves, and want to extend that upon someone else as well, but that fear of being cornered and bullied/made fun of is somewhat lifted, because you aren’t caught in a system that is more like a prison than anything. You have the ability to think for yourself, to develop your own voice, instead of listening to a voice that dictates how you should act or look or feel. Your own voice is very important, and is the one that matters the absolute most, because this is your life and no one else’s. They don’t have to live in your body, or think the things you do, or feel the way you feel. When you have a positive self-perception, and self-confidence, those negative voices that tell you that you are ugly? They will be smothered. They might come back once and awhile, but by then you will be confident enough to distinguish that that isn’t your voice, but a voice crafted by society. (this is not saying that those out of school are all going to be okay, but depression and anxiety often start in school and being away from that negative environment can help exponentially)
Personally, I believe every single human being is beautiful, and it’s hard for me to describe why. I guess it’s because every human is unique, for example: No one has your sister’s bright blue eyes, the shape of them, or the specific dimples that appear in her face when she smiles. No one has each painstaking strand of deep gold hair, or the freckles dotted on her body. Most importantly, no one has your sister’s soul. It is bright and beautiful, and, obviously, keeps your world turning. It makes me so angry that anyone, society, other people, could ever make your sister feel like she wasn’t gorgeous in every way. Her presence is invaluable— look at how much passion she is invoking simply by being, over 90k+ notes.
And while body appreciation is important, because it is what contains our souls and attracts our soulmates, please let your sister know that she is so much more than just her body— she is her desires, her fears, the music she listens to, her righteous anger, the smiles she gives, the joy she brings— she is the compassion she invokes, the love that she gives, and the love she receives in return. She’s saved lives by saying thank you or laughing along with a stranger or being so lovely that her sister desires the absolute best for her.
Your sister is a living being and who knows what greatness she has in store for the world, or what more her smile can bring, or how much more passion she can invoke. Her recovery is so, so important, and there are people that believe in her, and obviously love her.
Please ask of your sister to speak to herself positively (cognitive behavorial therapy). If she is feeling negatively about her body image or self, help her identify the reason she feels that way (be it people or comparing herself to someone else), help her go through her emotions, and then ask her to tell you what she loves about herself. Ask her to speak to herself the way she would to you. And tell her to be patient, because self-love doesn’t come overnight, but it is something she deserves so much. And please tell her that loving yourself does not make you conceited, it is caring for your life and your body and everyone should be doing it.
Also, please tell her that asking for help, or getting it, does not make her weak, but infinitely strong, because she is placing her trust in others to help her find happiness. That is so brave, and she will be stronger for it!
I wish the very best for you and your sister, and I hope that soon she can think the world of herself as well!! <3